Emergency and safety concerns during separation

Immediate steps if you or your children are at risk, what to say to police, and how to protect finances and information while you plan to leave.

Updated 20 July 2026·6 min read·Written to be clear and honest

If something is happening right now

  1. Get yourself and any children to a safe place - a locked room, a neighbour, a public space.
  2. Call 999. Ask for the police. Tell them children are present.
  3. The police can arrest, remove the abuser and impose protective bail conditions the same day.

Planning to leave safely

  • Keep essentials in one bag: ID, bank cards, phone charger, medication, some cash, keys, children's essentials.
  • Photograph or scan important documents (passports, birth certificates, mortgage statements) to a secure cloud account only you can access.
  • Change passwords on your primary email, bank and cloud accounts from a device the other person can't see.
  • Turn off location sharing on iCloud/Google/Find My, and check for any tracking apps.
  • Tell one trusted person your plan and expected timings.

Protecting money and information

  • Open a bank account in your sole name at a different bank if you don't have one.
  • Do not empty joint accounts - take a fair share and keep a record of what you moved and why.
  • Consider a Land Registry "home rights notice" so the family home can't be sold without your knowledge.
  • Speak to your GP - a note on your medical record can support later applications for legal aid or protective orders.

Where to get help

  • Refuge - 0808 2000 247 (24/7, women).
  • Men's Advice Line - 0808 8010 327.
  • Galop (LGBT+) - 0800 999 5428.
  • Karma Nirvana (honour-based abuse, forced marriage) - 0800 5999 247.
  • NSPCC (concerns about a child) - 0808 800 5000.
  • Samaritans (any distress) - 116 123.

This article is general information about the law of England and Wales, not legal advice. For advice on your situation, speak to a solicitor.

Frequently asked questions

Should I leave the house or make them leave?

It depends on safety. If you are at risk, get out first - you can apply for an occupation order afterwards to return and require them to leave.

Will the police tell my abuser I called?

The police attend on the report. But protective bail conditions and non-molestation orders exist specifically so they cannot retaliate lawfully - breach is a criminal offence.

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