Domestic abuse and divorce: your legal options

Non-molestation orders, occupation orders, protective bail conditions and how divorce works when there's a history of abuse.

Updated 20 July 2026·8 min read·Written to be clear and honest

Domestic abuse is not only physical. Under the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 it includes controlling and coercive behaviour, economic abuse, threats, stalking and psychological harm. The law recognises all of it.

Protective orders you can apply for

  • Non-molestation order - stops your abuser using or threatening violence, harassing or contacting you. Breach is a criminal offence.
  • Occupation order - regulates who lives in the family home and can require your abuser to leave, even if the home is in their name.
  • Prohibited Steps Order - stops a parent taking specific actions in relation to a child (e.g. removing them from school or the country).

How to apply

  1. Apply to the Family Court using Form FL401. Legal aid is available for domestic abuse cases regardless of the usual means test in many circumstances.
  2. You can apply without notice (ex parte) in urgent cases so your abuser isn't warned.
  3. The court can grant an emergency order the same day, followed by a full hearing within days.

What this means for the divorce

  • You are exempt from the requirement to attend a Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM).
  • The court can keep your address confidential.
  • You do not need your abuser's cooperation - a sole application is normal and safe.
  • Financial disclosure can be handled through solicitors so you don't have to deal directly.

This article is general information about the law of England and Wales, not legal advice. For advice on your situation, speak to a solicitor.

Frequently asked questions

Do I have to see my abuser in court?

No. Special measures - screens, separate entrances, video link - are standard in family cases involving abuse.

Can I get legal aid?

Yes, in most domestic abuse cases you qualify for legal aid regardless of income if you have evidence of abuse (a range of evidence is accepted, including a GP letter or refuge stay).

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