The law encourages parents to agree arrangements between themselves. If you can, a written parenting plan is enough - you don't need a court order at all.
Parenting plan basics
- Where the children live day-to-day and on weekends
- How holidays and half-terms are split
- How you handle changeovers, sickness and school pickups
- Communication rules - phone/video contact with the other parent
- Decision-making about school, medical care and religion
When mediation or court are needed
If you can't agree, you must attend a MIAM (Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting) before applying to court, unless a safeguarding exemption applies. If mediation doesn't resolve it, either parent can apply for a Child Arrangements Order under s.8 of the Children Act 1989.
This article is general information about the law of England and Wales, not legal advice. For advice on your situation, speak to a solicitor.